Since I left the Army I spent a lot of time in a whole bunch of different roles as an employee and running my own business. At the start I was okay with it “change is just as good as a holiday” they say, but then it really started getting on my nerves, I would always start a role with the best intention and work hard, but it always just felt like it wasn’t for me.
Have you ever felt like you were in a role and just going through the motions so you could get the paycheck and keep your stress levels low?
Maybe you really wanted to lose weight or get fit and healthy but it just felt like you were in quicksand not going anywhere?
It sucks doesn’t it! You feel like a failure, like you never achieve what you say you are going to. Doing that over and over from one goal to another really plays on your mind whenever you next go to set a goal.
This is how I felt for a long time and it wasn’t until I was absolutely fed up, that I decided to put a stop to it once and for all.
So I sat down and took out a bit of paper (it’s how I start any problem solving) and I started brain dumping everything that had been buzzing around in my skull causing the chaos. There was a lot of crap to get down but it felt bloody amazing! All the scribbles and doodles on my singe piece of paper was pointing to the fact that I didn’t know why I was actually choosing the jobs that I did or starting the businesses that I was starting.
Oh hell, do I need to find the meaning of life? (it could have become very philosophical)
Before I got too carried away, I started thinking of all the things that I had achieved so far and the one thing that stuck out is I new exactly why I had to succeed. (light-bulb moment)
Think about any of the goals you have set and achieved, any of the big milestones in your life, even any of the small wins, you knew why you had to do it. Sure maybe you were like me and didn’t think about it directly but deep in that place of instinct right in the pit of your stomach you knew exactly WHY it had to be done.
I do this with businesses when I am coaching them we figure out what there business purpose is, so why not find out what MY was as an individual. I took out a piece of paper and started to figure out what my WHY really was.
Guess what “I want to educate and inspire humanity to make an impact.”
Thinking more about it this is when I was the most happy, focused and productive, knowing exactly what was driving me and why I was actually doing this in the first place.
It is why I do what I do, if I can share any of the experiences or lessons that I have learnt along the way and it helps someone move that little bit closer to living the life they want to live, then I am on a high, absolutely buzzing and my day feels that little bit more fulfilled.
What have you wanted to achieve lately that you thought “oh nah, I tried that before it doesn’t work”
- Eating healthy
- Going to the gym
- Saving money
- Getting a new job
Yeah sure all of these things require some effort, but they are simple to do it=f you understand why you want it so much. I didn’t say easy I said simple there is a big difference.
We are all given an amazing skillset and what is even cooler is that some of us haven’t even tapped into it yet. Oh we will though, oh we will. It is a really hard thing trying to figure out why? Why we are here on this planet? Why we are trying to achieve an goal that randomly came to us? Why we feel so good when we succeed in crushing an objective we have set ourselves?
Until we actually start asking ourselves why? Then it is far too hard to understand how? When we get an idea or a thought we need to get it down and get clear on what it is exactly we are trying to achieve, but just as important if not more importantly we need to understand why this objective means so much to us.
Is it because it connects closely with our life’s why? Or is it because we know the greater objective that will come to us when we achieve this one? Is it because it will impact someone we care for deeply and make their life that much better to live?
All of these things are reasons that we may be starting to get some focus for our objective. When life starts to get hard and everything starts caving in and we get too busy, it is the why that will pull us through.
Otherwise the excuses in our head are just to strong and we give them so much power.
Have you ever told yourself anything like this:
- I’m too tired
- I don’t have the time
- It’s really cold out today
- I don’t really need a new job
- I am just being fussy it will fine
Cut it out!
Those of us that truly understand why we are going to achieve become relentless, we begin to blow away barriers and every time we knock over another barrier the underlying purpose becomes stronger and pushes us harder and gives us even more clarity, strength and focus.
So when we have written down our goal (yes we do need to write it down) take it and write the reason why this needs your time and effort, and then once we have got the reason why, write down why we got that answer and keep going, do it at least 5 times.
If you don’t get to something meaningful then scrap it and find a new goal that is moving you closer towards the life you want to live, the successes and the impact you want to have on yourself and others.
The reason we do this is to ensure we stay away from superficial reasons why, reasons that when times get tough you couldn’t really hold on to it and say I don’t care I am gonna crush this. The power that comes with understanding why you are doing this will make you unstoppable, relentless and successful in your pursuits for greatness.
So when you identify our next goals make sure you know why you are committing to it, and why you are going to let nothing stand in your way to crush it!